7 Ways To Last Longer In Bed

For most guys, the bedroom is probably the one place you don't want to finish first. Nothing makes a guy feel more insecure than coming up short when it matters most. So if you're plagued by this sexual shortcoming, relax—there are numerous ways to boost your sexual endurance and last longer in bed.

1. Study the Kama Sutra 

There is a technique mentioned in the Kama Sutra for delaying ejaculations that basically comes down to training yourself to last longer. Start slowly—with no more than one “in/out” stroke every three seconds. Then, add more strokes, slowly, over the course of 4 or 5 minutes, until you're moving one stroke per second. If you start to feel like you're going to come, stop and hold yourself inside your partner until you feel in control again, then begin the whole process again.

2. Get out of your head 

Performance anxiety is the number-one killer of erections. Shift your thinking to a more confident inner voice, as opposed to a worried voice. A “self-debilitating mindset” is what shuts guys down. When you begin to feel anxious, stop, take a breath, and get out of your head—focusing, instead, on the feelings your body is producing for you.

3. Slow down

Instead of the fast-paced jack-hammering style that many men are so fond of, try taking your time. Sex at a slower pace leads to a more connected experience for both people. It’s more sensual because you're caressing and exploring the rest of her body. Kiss her neck, nuzzle her ear, let your hands gently explore her body. The most important thing to keep in mind that will help you last longer? Enjoy the journey that leads to your destination.

4. Try a different kind of exercise 

Exercise the PC muscles (or pubococcygeus muscle, if we’re being technical). They’re the ones that stretch from your pubic to tail bone. To figure out how to squeeze and contract them, try stopping your urine flow while you’re in the middle of peeing. You’ll know it when you try it. Three sets of 15 reps per day should do the trick. Daily PC muscle reps help a guy to literally pump himself up. Squeezing those muscles triggers good blood flow to the penis, which in turn leads to mental confidence.

5. Don't go deep

If you feel that continued deep thrusting will bring on an all-too-quick orgasm, try penetrating only the lower portion of her vagina—in other words, take more shallow thrusts. Also, alternating between shallow and deep thrusts can make you last longer, and will also make the experience a lot more fun!

6. Squeeze

Explore the “squeeze technique.” There are three areas of the penis where squeezing or applying pressure can help a man sustain or maintain an erection. For the first, make a tight ring with the index finger and thumb around the base of the shaft when it is erect, simulating a penile ring. It can help a man keep blood flow to the engorged penis. The second: Apply pressure on the underside of the head. That’s a male hot spot, densely packed with nerves. And finally, pressing on the “perineum,” or the spot between the anus and the base of the testicles. It will feel like the tip of the nose. If he presses with his finger, it will congest the flow of ejaculate and help quell the early release of the erection.

7. Change things up

The best thing to do if you’re getting close to the edge? Alter your speed. Try teasing her. Take your penis out and rub just the head of it sensually up and down and between her labia. Vaginas have lots of nerve endings clustered in the lower portion of their vaginal canal, so this move will still be very enjoyable for her to experience.